Isn't that manipulation?

Black Rhetoric . Is it about finally learning the right tricks to powerfully enforce your own goals?

Admittedly, you can shudder when voice, body language and language unfold their power. But there are famous goosebump moments. Quite deterrent ones from recent history – and very touching and striking. In addition to big names like Martin Luther King, Steve Jobs or Barack Obama, you can certainly think of quite others.

Isn't communication always about influencing?

Why do we communicate with each other at all? From the first moment of life, our whole being is focused on moving others to do what suits us. That supports us, that helps us, that enriches or feeds us in some way.

Before you can say what you want, you scream your wish out of you, at some point the mom will come and give you the breast and satisfy your needs.

We train from the beginning to do what led to the goal next time. What gives you warmth, fills you up, makes you smile. Then you have practiced the basic pattern of communication: that your statements serve to move others to what is important to you at the moment, what supports you at the moment.

When are we worried about being manipulated?

We probably talk less about manipulation in everyday life when someone wants to move you to do something at eye level. You are more likely to feel manipulated if you understand that someone is trying to rip you off. When you feel like someone is doing something to you that you don't want.

These questions come to mind:

✅ What helps us to prevent this excess of pressure to persuade so as not to unknowingly create resistance?
✅ How can knowledge of spatial psychology ("proxemics") ensure a more relaxed discussion climate?
✅ What decisions are due when our surprisingly great responsibility for the state of mind of our interlocutors and our Listener ?