Do you feel the same way:
“Wenn in einer Besprechung mehrer Menschen an einem Tisch sitzen, komme ich sehr oft gar nicht erst zu Wort. Warum dringe ich stimmlich nicht durch?”
Situations like this are not an isolated case: a meeting takes place, the whole team sits at the oval table, a discussion ensues – possibly animated and intensive, but possibly also time-consuming and not expedient. You finally want to bring in your point of view, but despite several approaches, you are not noticed.
What is the reason for this? Like a gatekeeper, the unconscious autonomous self-control of the participants ensures that only clear guidance signals find access to attention. When opinions build up in a discussion, it takes correspondingly strong accents to get all heads to turn in your direction. As long as you only say a word timidly, but then stop immediately because you realize that you are not being heard, that is not enough. Only when your voice sends clear guidance signals do you impressively draw attention to your desire to speak.
Reading tip: "Secret Seducer Voice. Voice as a success factor. 77 Answers to the Unconscious Power in Communication" by Arno Fischbacher, Soft Skills Kompakt, Junfermann Verlag, Paderborn. 3rd edition. Order here on Amazon
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